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Barmy about my Boys – Guest Day Post

Guest Post Day has come round again thanks to Erica at Littlemummy.com and this time I am pleased to announce my guest blogger is Ramblemum, so without further ado it’s over to Ramblemum:

 

This is my first guest post day so please be easy on me! I am glad to be paired with Super Single Mum as she has been able to help me with this process.We decided as I have all boys and she has all girls we would do a comparison, so here is my perspective on having all boys.

 

I recently almost got thrown out of Asda. It was nothing really to do with the boys behaviour (for once) Albert was at playgroup, Stanley and Ernest were both asleep in the buggy. I was walking round minding my own business and an old lady peeked in at Ernest,

 

Her: Awww two boys?

Myself : Yes, well three actually, the other is at playgroup

Her: Oh well try again maybe you will be lucky next time and get a girl

Now this is not an unusual remark and normally I would let it go so I could run after Albert and stop him filling the trolly but as the two were all asleep and I had half an hour to kill I took the decision to follow it up

Myself: I think I’m I am lucky now thank you (In a very sarcastic tone)

Her: No need to be rude!

Myself: I think insinuating I am not lucky to have my boys is rude

 

The conversation continued until a manager asked us to take it outside and we both slunk off.

 

I am very protective of my boys, when I was pregnant with Albert everyone thought I would have a boy, we thought we would have it at the weekend and true we did. With Stanley again everyone thought boy, he was and born at the weekend at night the same as Albert. So with Ernest we joked that he would be a boy born at the weekend at night and true to form he was! No one could believe it and now everyone thinks I can produce to order, Will this he has super ‘man’ sperm, I think we must have a predictable sex life.

 

Life with three boys born within three years is loud, dirty and fun and I am not sure what people think is wrong with that. I get asked if I would like to continue to have a girl or wish I had one but I really do not think I am missing anything. At the moment I think there is not much difference, its when they get older that the differences come. I am hoping it will be easier having boys. I have a guilty fantasy of other friends having arguments with their teenage girls whilst my boys are hidden in their rooms looking at porn or on their computers, then again most probably looking at porn on their computers. Whatever, I am getting some peace.

 

The most difficult thing about having boys is buying things, retailers are still very much on the side of girls. Clothes especially, I am sick of zoo/farm/jungle/safari baby clothes and tractor/car based toddler clothes. Formal clothes are a nightmare, the selection is minimal and very predictable as opposed to the rails and rails of dresses available for girls. Do not get me wrong, there are a lot of hideous girls stuff out there, billowing polyester fairy princess dresses and lelli kelly shoes to start but at least there is a choice. Boys toys tend to be educational or skills based as opposed to creative but that is ok as my boys have a range of toys. Stanley is getting a dolly, push chair and tea set for his birthday as gender specific does not happen here, well we do not, I cannot vouch for what others get them.

 

Emotionally I would like my boys to stay as close to me as they are now but I do understand that boys tend to rely less emotionally on their mothers as they get older. Maybe I can replace them with a very girly needy dog once this happens, I jest-Will hates dogs. In all honesty at the end of the day as long as they are happy and healthy I will be a happy Mummy.

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May 28, 2010 - Posted by | Guest Blog Post | , , ,

3 Comments »

  1. I have 2 boys with just over a year gap and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I adore my boys and it never ceases to amaze me how people think that they can foist their opinions on you unwanted or unrequested.

    I also agree with you on the clothes. I hate slogans, my boys are not monkeys, or trouble or monsters, so I dont want them in t-shirts saying they are. Very pleased to meet you and now I am off for a good read of your blog.

    Comment by TheMadHouse | May 28, 2010 | Reply

    • Cheers for popping by for a read. It’s funny isn’t it, having 2 girls all the t-shirsts say girl things like “Princess” or have swirly girly patterns – yet my 2 ARE monsters lol!!!! It is interesting tho as a Mum of only girls I always think how nice boy clothes are and that there is so much more choice. Maybe it’s because we don’t have to look properly at the opposite genders clothing sections? I love the dresses that are out there, but they are so impractical for all the time – and can I buy shorts for my youngest at the mo? Nope yet there are loads on the shelves for boys lol!!!!
      Thankfully being a single mum noone ever asks me if I’m gonna try again for a boy and I dont ever get comments about having boys – I do however get comments about how I must be so proud to have 2 lovely girls, and sometimes I feel like saying “No I’m proud of having 2 fantastic kids, does it really matter that they are pretty little girls!!!” I don’t mind it from people I know but sometimes I think random strangers should think a little more before talking to someone about their kids and passing any judgement!

      Comment by supersinglemum | May 28, 2010 | Reply

  2. I have two girls. People keep already saying to me you’ll have to keep trying till you get a boy now. But I am very happy with my two girls and when we found out we were having another girl there was not even a second of disapointment. So know how you feel!

    Comment by Rock and Roll Mummy | May 28, 2010 | Reply


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