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A Whole New World

What is this feeling, I don’t understand it. My girls are at Daddy’s, I’m sat home alone, trying to sort out things for a car boot tomorrow and I’m just feeling fantastic! For the 1st time since I have been a single Mum I am actually enjoying my weekend off without wondering what they are up to every second. Yet I really wasn’t prepared for it, as you will know from reading my blogs on the run up to Daddy coming home.


Yesterday I spent the morning with Daddy, H and L, going through the changes in both B and H’s routines and boundaries. The afternoon was spent sorting things for the car boot, then I took B’s bike over to Daddy’s and saw my other baby girl, our dog who I haven’t seen since H was born almost 2 years ago. I nearly cried when I saw her and she went mental, you can definitely say that she remembers me!


I got home, ate, showered and changed before heading to the pub for the 1st time in 2010!! It’s been a long old 4 months I can tell you. Going out with friends is my 1 release, the time I can be 100% myself without the girls, without thinking about work, just be me!! And actually for the 1st time since I moved here I was out in male company for most of the night (We had to do the obligatory drink with the parents!!!). I have always got on better with blokes than women, I don’t know why just have and as much as I love all my girlie friends I have made here, I do miss the different humour a night out makes with blokes – maybe it’s the military humour I grew up with and the fact it takes quite a bit to offend me!


So at 3am this morning I rolled into bed. I was fairly tipsy it has to be said. But actually I wasn’t completely hammered! I slept not too well, as is the case when it’s alcohol induced sleep. Woke up, shower, dressed, done some jobs round the house. Ate left over kebab for lunch. And after writing this I’m off for a BBQ at my parents. It’s nothing special but right now I’m sat thinking, this is the life. I love my girls to bits as is probably obvious from this blog, but I had forgotten how much I enjoy and need this time to me. As a single parent there is never time for the things you need to do for you – but now I can again! Think I may even get booked in for my hair and nails next weekend – as it’s payday!!!


Anyway, that’s all I wanted to say, hadn’t posted in a few days and it’s because at the moment I actually feel like I have a life, and I’m loving living it!!!


April 24, 2010 - Posted by | Uncategorized


  1. I haven’t been to the pub at all this year either. I don’t drink but still, wouldn’t mind a meal out!!

    Hope the car boot goes well tomorrow and you make loads.

    CJ xx

    Comment by Crystal Jigsaw | April 24, 2010 | Reply

    • Yes it is good to get out every now and then, drop lots of hints that you should get taken out soon!!!
      Hopefully I’ll make enough to cover the BluRay player I bought yesterday lol!!!

      Comment by supersinglemum | April 24, 2010 | Reply

  2. Well done for the thiking, you are so right we have to make the best of what we have and sometimes it is just that realisation that makes everything OK, have a good car boot

    Comment by TheMadHouse | April 24, 2010 | Reply

  3. I’m so pleased your weekend has gone better than anticipated. You are really turning your life around and its so nice that you have been able to really enjoy your “you” time!!

    Comment by MummyMatters | April 24, 2010 | Reply

  4. Yay I’m pleased for you! I never really got me time either, even when D’s dad and I were together, he was always off with the Army it seemed! (he’s in the TA but did a lot of regular army work).

    When we split a few months into my uni course it meant 3 years of really no me time at all! The two times he took him a week were the times I had to work my part time job for working tax credits to survive, so no me time really bar the rare occassion I got a babysitter to go out with friends, but then it was just out drinking… not really TIME if you understand?

    However since I finished my course I was more strict with D’s dad as he wasn’t paying maintanence or anything and still only taking D one night a week and a sunday during the day. I laid my foot down telling him I’d go to the army and lodge complaints he wasn’t paying for his child! Well he got shocked into change, and now he has D three nights a week (inc the sunday during the day and Sunday is one of his nights). He still doesn’t pay ANYTHING but it’s a start… he sees D more, and takes him places, and it means I get me time. It also means I fret less about doing late shifts etc at work, as I can try swap shifts with someone to make it on one of nights I don’t have D! So right now I’m happier… happy that D has Daddy time, happy that I have LOUISE time…

    With this too me and D’s dad get on a hell of a lot better too, as I’m resenting things less now we do the whole co-parenting thing. We talk more, we’re happier in each others company and therefore that’s good for D too! Sure I could do with him contributing to his outta school club that he needs to attend so that we can both work to have homes for D, but it’s a first step the way I see it.

    I’m hoping too, that this whole Daddy time thing for you will help ALL of your relationships. That finding you, in your you time will make you a happier person too, and that the old wounds heal and you can go on with this new chapter in all of your lives. xx

    Comment by Louise @ WeeWifie's World | April 25, 2010 | Reply

    • To be honest I think it was the fact the wounds hadn’t healed before that I never appreciated my free weekends before, I didn’t do anything different to what I would do if they were with me etc. But I think this time it is because I am a new me and because I have built up a circle of friends that I have the confidence to be me!!

      Comment by supersinglemum | April 25, 2010 | Reply

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