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The Problem with Underwear

Right before any of you fret, I am not talking my own underwear, that’s not for a family orientated blog!!

No, I am talking the issues I have with B and her pants (I know generally pants are for boys and knickers are for girls, but we have always used the word pants). The issue 1st started about 2 years ago – maybe there is a psycological link here with the big family upheavel that happened around the same time. I digress…..the issue is that she hates the way pants feel. When the issue started she was 5 and when she wore age 5-6 pants she said they dug in round her legs and went up her bum. Ok, she has always been tall for her age so we bought some larger ones to see if that helped and initially it did. The problem went away for a little while and has come back here and there along the way but just lately we have had some major problems all due to pants. For the last week we have had the most nightmare mornings when it comes to getting dressed. She puts on pants in the mindset they are going to be uncomfortable. As soon as they are pulled up she starts grunting, squealing and throwing herself around. It’s not nice to watch but at her age (7) it is frustrating me that she still can’t explain to me why they are ncomfortable. We have tried breifs, full “granny” style and the boy short style. It doesn’t seem the style that matters, they are all comfortable but nt always. It’s hard to explain the issue because I don’t know what the issue is. She does however, suffer from very red and sore creases at the tops of her legs, due to the fact she doesn’t seem to dry herself properly every time after a bath. It flares up every few weeks and goes down within a day with the aid of moisturiser. But this flaring up doesn’t seem to match with the pants issue.

I don’t know what blogging about this will achieve, maybe someone else has experienced, or has a child with the same problem. Maybe someone has some ideas as to what else I can try. Or maybe it’s just I need a voice for my frustration that I don’t seem to be able to sort this out. I even bought her some new ones last week and she is refusing to wear them already and yet she hasn’t tried them on! I feel like I am banging my head against a brick wall. Today I have tried to explain to her that different styles feel different and that just because they feel different each day that throwing a paddy will only make it worse. We have also agreed she will try her new pants tomorrow with no “stressing” so fingers crossed! No one said motherhood was easy but this is not an issue I expected to face!!!

February 24, 2010 - Posted by | Parenting | , , ,


  1. Is it only her pants your daughter has a problem with? Or do other things irritate her?

    One of my daughters is overly sensitive with labels and seams, and is forever saying her feet/arm/neck is itchy. I’ve often thought it could be dyspraxia.

    Maybe you should take her to the doctor for a check-up, just to put your mind at ease. She might just have sensitive skin.

    I hope you get to the bottom of this soon. (Sorry! No pun intended. LOL)

    Comment by Annette | February 24, 2010 | Reply

    • Thanks for your comment, today she asked me tocut the label out – butthat was on her new ones and they have huge labels in lol! What’s dispraxia?

      Comment by supersinglemum | February 25, 2010 | Reply

  2. Yikes, what’s going to happen when you get to Bra’s? Just wondering whether she might have a yeast infection or eczema at the tops of her legs that is causing the irritation?

    Aside from that maybe bribery might work? ‘If you can find and put pants on yourself nicely every morning you’ll get xyz at the weekend?’ Sorry, probably not very helpful.

    Comment by Cheeky Wipes Helen | February 25, 2010 | Reply

    • Tried the incentive approach- she looses all sense of rationality when it happens though and never works. Fingers crossed for tomorrow as today we did ok, apart from having to gut label out. Her skin is just red, not flacky dry but not moist either, just red and she does say he topsof her legs itch too, maybe a trip to the docs is best! I just dont want to make a big deal out of it if it turns out to be nothing……….ok she is off to her room now after a major pants tantrum……ah thejoys – she is never wearing bras lol!!!

      Comment by supersinglemum | February 25, 2010 | Reply

  3. Have you tried shorts type underwear? Kind of like what the boys wear-cotton tighter fitting boxers things. (It’s late-am at a loss for words.)

    I hated labels and pantyhose and wool and stuff like that as well.

    Also have her go shopping with you adn try stuff on and let her chose what looks comfortable to her. Maybe it will help.

    Comment by newdaynewlesson | February 25, 2010 | Reply

    • Tried every style we can get, tight isn’t good she prefers loose and I don’t buy any clothes that she isn’t with me to choose and try on, but she can’t try pants on properly as she would have another pair underneath fr hygeine. It’s driving me mad but so far from the comments I’m thinking she obviusly isn’t alone and will hopefully get over it!

      Comment by supersinglemum | February 25, 2010 | Reply

  4. Idea. if your daughter is red, it could be a yeast infection, a bit like thrush. does the red look shinny and sweaty. A cream from the doc will help that. or it could be your soap powder and fabric softner, try chainging them to a non bio type or those balls where you wash with just water. My son was very sencertive to soap powders as a boy. An intolarance to the elastic, which is used in all but not seen might be it. you would need to cover the elastic with pos bias binding?

    Comment by Jacqueline | February 26, 2010 | Reply

    • Thanks for the comment. No its not shiny and sweaty, it loks no different to her skin does normally just red, 45 clears it within 48 hours of it flaring up and the pants issue is worse when its red but she still complains at other times just less frequently. Hadn’t thought of the elastic though!

      Comment by supersinglemum | February 26, 2010 | Reply

      • Good luck with the “pants” problem. A trip to the doc might well be worth the time but getting a test to see if the rubber is the problem might be hard to get. It is amaising what you can have a bad reaction to. My cousin can not use plasters and the son of a friend has a very bad reaction to some glues used to stick shoes together with. Best of luck with this, may be wearing shorts or trousers with out pants is the answer?

        Comment by Jacqueline | February 28, 2010 | Reply

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